When I was in kindergarten, my father told me: “If someone tries to hurt you, grab the heaviest object around and hit them over the head.” Now, that’s quite an unusual advice to give to your little girl. I remember protesting and saying “What if I kill them?” He said “You worry about that later, if someone endangers you - you protect yourself!” “But I am a girl!” I gasped. “Exactly, and you need to be able to stand up for yourself.” As harsh and unusual as this advice was, it served me tremendously throughout life. In fact, I remember clearly two instances when I had to apply it.
Seduction is a mental arousal which occurs between the lines of your communication. The hottest quality of a lover is authenticity. The courage to be bold in expressing your desires and your confidence, which allows you to remain unattached to the outcome create an irresistible combination.
Some years ago, when my husband would try to share his big dreams with me, or tell me about his visions of the future that extended 20-30 years ahead, my mind would nearly explode. It was difficult for me to focus on those things, and I could not understand why we would have to think that far into the future. On the other hand, when I would get all wrapped up in little details and tried to call his attention to them, I felt that he couldn’t follow me either. Then, I stumbled upon an invaluable resource that helped me understand my beloved and myself much better.
This story started with a riddle someone posted on Facebook: “The most ephemeral substance in the universe is pursued by both rich and poor, both learned and ignorant, both strong and weak. It can be both a tonic and a poison. What is it?” The answer posted to this riddle was “romantic love,” with which I argued that True love doesn't have an antagonist, it's irresistible and heavenly, and it is only a tonic. Obsession, on the other hand, turns into poison and it has nothing to do with love. The next comment got me thinking – it read “Romantic love and true love are not synonymous.” They’re not?