Most people struggle in their relationships, because we are not educated on how to establish healthy communication. Instead, we adopt the patterns of behavior which we observe in others – parents, friends, media, etc. – and unintentionally turn their heartbreaks into our own. Every relationship has a fine line, which, once crossed, leads to the point of no return – eventual breakup. In my working with clients from all over the world, I have detected 3 common patterns that seem innocent, but, in truth, are absolutely detrimental to relationships and should be avoided at all costs
When I was in kindergarten, my father told me: “If someone tries to hurt you, grab the heaviest object around and hit them over the head.” Now, that’s quite an unusual advice to give to your little girl. I remember protesting and saying “What if I kill them?” He said “You worry about that later, if someone endangers you - you protect yourself!” “But I am a girl!” I gasped. “Exactly, and you need to be able to stand up for yourself.” As harsh and unusual as this advice was, it served me tremendously throughout life. In fact, I remember clearly two instances when I had to apply it.