The 3 Secrets to Unlocking a Woman’s Heart

passionThere’s a woman in your life you care about. You want to be there for her and be a man she deserves. You want to love her and give her the world, but you are not sure she is open to receive it…

She wants you to be a man and take charge. But she also wants you to be sensitive and gentle. She gives you mixed signals and gets upset–even when you do what you think she wants!

You’re afraid to offend her by being too forceful or aggressive. So you honor her boundaries, and she loses her interest. Or you remain persistent, and it becomes too much for her and she pushes you away…

What’s up with that? Can you ever WIN with her and get it right?

The 3 Secrets to Unlocking a Woman’s Heart:

1. Claim Your Woman. Every feminine woman wants to be taken by her man. Yet, even the wording “taking” sounds selfish and something seems to be terribly wrong with it. Men are afraid to say “You are mine, and I’ll never let you go” because they think they’ll be perceived as controlling and egocentric.

The truth is, you need to take your woman INTO ultimate freedom which she can’t experience on her own.

When you claim your woman, it’s not a process of acquiring her into belonging to you, but an offering of guidance and protection, which you are devoting yourself to. You are offering your courageous heart and profound love and inviting her to open boundlessly while you holding a safe container for her.

Think of your affection, kisses, touch, etc. as a gift. When it comes from a sincere place of care as a natural expression of your praise, admiration and passion for her, it is not offensive—it’s a sacred offering.

Disclaimer:  if a woman is immature and entangled in her insecurities, she might get triggered into survival and still run away… If your move was pure and inspired, but she rejected it, there is nothing you can do. You have to respect where she is. She might be not ready for someone like you. It’s her responsibility to heal her wounds, not yours.

2. Bypass Her Resistances. Look deeper than her defenses, complaints, capriciousness, and rejection. When you honor the truth of your own Soul, you’ll feel the yearning of her heart and will be able to fulfill her deepest desires, not just jump through hoops to please her.

Women don’t communicate in straight-forward ways. Subconsciously they want you to “get it.” It validates for them that you truly care, and aren’t just saying that you do. When you feel her, she knows and she opens up in TRUST to you. A man who is after a superficial reward—sex or the prestige of her looks—won’t go through the trouble of feeling her deeply. So, she tests your INTEGRITY.

3. Trust Yourself. No one can teach you what to say, when to say it, or what move to make and when. But your heart has all the answers ALWAYS.

Before you can feel your woman, you may need to learn to FEEL for real and to get in touch with your purpose. Your woman is a part of your purpose and you need to know exactly what you want. Where are you guiding her and yourself?

If you’re after validation or attempting to prove something to yourself, others or her, then you are driven by insecurity and she will feel it. She will punish you mercilessly for your weakness.

When your purpose and direction are crystal clear and of service to your woman, yourself, and the world, she’ll reward you with heaven on Earth. Nothing is more fulfilling for a man than opening a woman’s heart into a full radiance.

When you feel unstoppable in your quest, act on your impulses. The purity of your intent will give you courage.

This means that if you are moved by profound love in your heart and feel like ripping off her clothes, do it! But if there is a split moment of hesitation on your part, she’ll feel it immediately. You’ll lose the momentum, and she’ll distrust you. She will distrust you, because you don’t trust yourself…

Your heart will tell you whether your woman needs a hug, laughter or chocolate, whether you need to kiss her or shake her… You’ll be on the beat with her and life itself.

Women yearn for your Divine Masculine. Honor your own nature, embrace it, and offer your gifts boundlessly.

What has been your experience of cracking the protective shell of a woman?

If you are a woman, what does your feminine heart yearn for?

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By |2017-03-19T19:23:56-05:00November 17th, 2014|Men, Uncategorized|

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  1. Thomas November 21, 2014 at 9:03 pm - Reply

    You say it better than I have ever heard it said – thank you Sky – I want to be of service to you in kind – you have opened my eyes

    • Jacques November 20, 2017 at 9:08 am - Reply

      Hi there im Jacques i have find a women she is my tipe only problem is a did a mistake of asking her to marry me and she is the one I realy love do you have advice what I can do to make her mine to make her to feel me that I realy care and love

  2. Gigi November 21, 2014 at 10:46 pm - Reply


  3. Eze Elias Chidi January 31, 2016 at 8:38 am - Reply

    i need a wife

  4. Mr.nikia cole February 8, 2016 at 9:28 pm - Reply

    Very eye opening what i have read has givin me something too think about thanks sky.

    • SIMZA November 30, 2016 at 7:59 am - Reply


  5. Dankwah bernard February 26, 2016 at 11:39 am - Reply

    Nice solution to my problem,hopefully to see and learn more,thank you very much Sky.

  6. Dro March 7, 2016 at 8:11 am - Reply


  7. Dro March 7, 2016 at 8:11 am - Reply

    Wow. Very interesting.

  8. Dan March 30, 2016 at 6:55 am - Reply

    This is wat I was looking for and here I have found it. They are factual and am sure they will work

  9. Raymond April 27, 2016 at 4:10 am - Reply

    Please help me i want to totally win my womans heart.

    • Mistery June 14, 2016 at 6:14 am - Reply

      Why not take her on a romantic date candle lit dinner for two doesn’t have to be going out maybe a couple yellow Roses or pink or maybe one of each. Find out what she likes in movies and maybe have a movie night with popcorn. Does not have to be expensive. If you have a fireplace and it is kinda chilly best time for firing that baby up and movie best romantic date that doesn’t dig a big hole in your budget.

  10. jay May 1, 2016 at 5:00 am - Reply

    Thanks for this good advice

  11. Matthew June 27, 2016 at 8:30 pm - Reply

    I have a a very dear friend, that loves when I come hug her
    I always look up to her, for anything I need

    Over time, I fell for her

    But, not in a romantic ways that

  12. Lucky b mulonda July 29, 2016 at 8:06 am - Reply

    Thank you

  13. fred September 29, 2016 at 4:28 am - Reply

    Am really delighted and speechless,thank you sky.

    • Sky Blossoms September 30, 2016 at 10:54 pm - Reply

      My pleasure, Fred!
      Thank you so much for your kind words 🙂

  14. JULIUS October 1, 2016 at 2:41 pm - Reply

    so eye opening and charming thank you SKY

  15. French October 16, 2016 at 3:36 am - Reply

    SKY please i need your help cause i dont know what is wrong with me.i started dating when i was 16years old and i dont know if i should say i have never loved before my love for them die so so scared because i want to get married to the man i love. Yes i know there is a saying “its better you maary a man that loves you more than you love him” but i want the taste of love i dont want a case of a boring home.please what can i do?

    • Sky Blossoms October 16, 2016 at 9:35 am - Reply

      Thank you so much for your comment!
      Love has no measure. Once you know it, the silly idea of who loves more makes no sense.
      You can love another as much as you can love yourself – no more, no less.
      And even if your mate is showering you with love, but you do not love yourself and feel deserving of it, you’ll be closed off and won’t receive it.
      The first exploration I’d encourage you to embark on is to discover how much you can adore YOU.
      And you’ll be encountering men who’ll reflect your level of self-acceptance.
      Every relationship is nothing but a mirror… 🙂
      I hope this helps.

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  17. Bob Rolland November 11, 2016 at 2:15 pm - Reply

    Awesome. You are full of wisdom. Thanks sky
    God bless you

  18. max December 13, 2016 at 9:30 pm - Reply

    and what matter of lady would this be?

  19. max December 13, 2016 at 9:34 pm - Reply

    so many unhappy people in this world , and most are lady,s who will never let the pATH GO..

  20. max December 13, 2016 at 9:38 pm - Reply

    WE are man who are ready to serve and honor the peace and the power of real LovE, but no respect will come it..words and action are a thing of the path..

  21. Sandeep Basumatary December 18, 2016 at 2:30 am - Reply

    It’s really eye opening. Thank you so much Sky.

    • Sky Blossoms December 18, 2016 at 1:50 pm - Reply

      Thank you! I’m glad it resonates with you 🙂

  22. daniele January 4, 2017 at 8:34 am - Reply

    What a wonderful article I loved

  23. Elisha Duut January 11, 2017 at 9:30 pm - Reply

    Very inspiring n nice to regularly b here for wisdom

  24. Mugisa George July 27, 2017 at 4:18 am - Reply

    Thanks #Sky,
    and as a matter of fact, you deserve to be paid for great work your doing.
    You have really solved the relationship issues.

  25. Jim August 14, 2017 at 9:44 pm - Reply

    How can I really portray the masculine better.? I take pride in loving my woman. Unfortunately I’m sensing my girlfriend seeing that as weak. Im no sissy but I’m a proud lover and truly enjoy blessing and being close to my woman. Is that not masculine? Im truly confused. Plz help

  26. Michael w September 18, 2017 at 3:23 am - Reply

    I get electric shocks from the lady I’m unconditionaly in love with. I look her in eyes all the time when we talk, she knows I love her more than anything . I wish she would open up and let me touch her soul .
    Hopeless romantic I’m phila

    • Sky Blossoms October 1, 2017 at 10:31 pm - Reply

      Michael, if your love is sincere, then in inevitably touches her soul :-), for unconditional love is what keeps us eternally interconnected with one another.

  27. Olawale September 30, 2017 at 4:45 am - Reply

    It’s seems am the one you are talking to here………thanks very much for this post

    • Sky Blossoms October 1, 2017 at 10:30 pm - Reply

      You’re most welcome! I’m glad it resonates with you and is helpful 🙂

  28. Jon Jones November 15, 2017 at 11:52 pm - Reply

    Confirmation of my experience, WHEN with a sincere, high quality, and good-hearted woman.

  29. Dr dray December 2, 2017 at 8:51 am - Reply

    I meet a girl and I love her to be my wife, by she thinks am not genuine And refused to communicate with me

  30. reem December 11, 2017 at 6:48 am - Reply

    This article is like a fresh breeze to me. As a woman there was so much of on going improvements that i could do and to inspire men, but something felt missing, as if men forgot their role on how to be men.

    • Sky Blossoms December 12, 2017 at 1:03 pm - Reply

      I hear you… Many men feel like between the rock and the hard place. On one hand, women want them to be decisive, pursuing, claiming, and strong. On the other hand we have this #metoo and sexual abuse conversation, where well-meaning and heart-centered men feel hesitant to make a move, because they don’t want to offend a woman… That’s why sexual healing and integration of masculine and feminine forces within oneself AND understanding and consciously allowing masculine and feminine dynamics are the key to creating a relationship most people dream of. Passion requires polarity of masculine and feminine forces 🙂

  31. james December 12, 2017 at 12:58 am - Reply

    hey sky my name is james i got a complicated one for you. The other day I am sure I met the love of my life. We for the first time meeting couldn’t help the energy and sparks between us. I am 10 years younger then her. to me that is more attractive to be honest. Within the first met she kept touching me and kissing me on the cheek. I am coming out of a real bad relationship and she is coming out of a 14 year old marriage where her ex husband had an affair on her and as not the working type etc. I told her my connection and intent for us. she stated there was a connection as well and that she is still healing so she would like to start as friends but close friends then used the term friendship-relationship. whats going on here i never been with an older woman and she is drop dead beautiful and i want her and I know she independent but i want her to cherish and take care of her etc. and she always insists of having these romantic conversations in person while making eye contact. am I on the right path here. what do I do now how do I keep her. for right now she only wants to meet twice a week. is that good we both do own our own businesses

    • Sky Blossoms December 12, 2017 at 12:59 pm - Reply

      Hi James,
      Thank you for your comment!
      First, congrats on meeting the woman of your dreams and feeling such strong connection, what a gift!
      The age difference is something you both will get used to, even though in the beginning it might take some adjustment
      Since both of you are coming out of dysfunctional relationships (based on your descriptions), it’s very wise to take the time to heal and reflect on those before diving deep into a new relationship.
      She is doing the right thing by keeping somewhat a distance. If the feelings are mutually strong, time will work in your favor, and you have nothing to worry about.
      To keep her, hold a loving container of presence for her, in person and eye-to-eye is great for that. Make sure she feels safe with you and has a piece of mind that you’re going to be there for her no matter what. Also, give her SPACE for her own processing and reflection so that she doesn’t feel “suffocated” by your affection. Give her an opportunity to miss you once in a while. Be decisive, call the shots, show that you are a man, not just a cute boy, so that she can trust your leadership. My Seductive Communication program explains in detail on how to create the irresistible dynamic, you may want to check it out. Good luck!

  32. Arthur December 26, 2017 at 11:57 am - Reply

    I really love this as I have had trouble finding love. I really did not know even how to be in the same room with a beautiful woman. I really needed an expert. along with these tips and the tips I received from these guys really made it so easy now!!

  33. gabriel February 15, 2018 at 8:04 am - Reply

    very good article, congratulations!!

  34. Rick Davis March 7, 2018 at 11:55 am - Reply

    No one can tell you what will work best for you to have your woman trust you. YOU need to listen and feel into her, at all times. Honor her. Worship her. Be present in every moment with her. Learn to feel what she needs before she knows what she needs.
    And don’t hesitate. I agree that it will be felt by her and it will weaken her trust in you.
    My woman doesn’t want me to text her first thing in the morning. All though many women want to know you’re thinking of them. It triggers my woman, so I don’t do it.

  35. Kai Musa March 10, 2018 at 10:53 am - Reply

    I benefited so much from this program

  36. Escott Arthur May 31, 2018 at 6:20 am - Reply

    Comment…i am emmanuel and my problem is i have a woman i really love and whom i will like to spend the rest of my life with,but she always acepect men proposal and after living with them for months then she comes back to me. pls… sky can you tell me what to do.

  37. R Lynn July 18, 2018 at 11:04 am - Reply

    In trying to win my girl she being very difficult but never saying never thanks for the advice just I’m not in the position to rip her clothes of yet i don’t wanna go to jail but thanks your advice was great it may take me awhile to win her because she’s been hurt and she is used to being independent but i know she cares

  38. Ozzie Adame August 12, 2018 at 10:51 pm - Reply

    Man just need to learn how to really pour out his heart and give out real love. Love is the healthiest way of life and most man are to manly to know how to love. We have to flourish our woman and watch them blossom and if you can do that more than likely she will love you back just as much. Got to be very thoughtful, genuine, respectful, kind, and above all loving. And if a woman can’t accept this type of care then she might be miserable her whole life..

  39. Zeefit Abiola September 28, 2018 at 8:25 am - Reply

    Thanks so much for this article sky. There is a girl I love so much, when we met each other she
    Is unemploy, and still I follow her up with her condition. When she is in need I care for her, give her money to buy stuffs, bought her gift, and still I’m not getting a good results, she can’t even call or text me, she only calls me when she need money from me. I love her so much, what can I do to make her love me. Please I need a reply because I want to live a fulfill life with the woman of my life. Thanks so much for your generosity.

    • Aleksey November 30, 2018 at 4:24 pm - Reply

      Thank you so much for your question.
      True love does not require reciprocity. When you try to make someone love you, the situation is already off balance.
      If I were you, I’d stop giving her money, and rather start getting to know her. What kind of a person she is?
      What are her dreams and aspirations? You’ll feel if she likes you or uses you.
      And if she only uses you for money, which sounds like it might be the case, than you might want to remind yourself that you deserve someone who genuinely appreciates you.
      Essentially making anyone love you is a futile action.
      You can appreciate another, you can make your interactions unforgettable and unique, you can seduce them, stir their imagination, and inspire them. As the result, you may become special to them. And this is possible only when YOU KNOW that YOU ARE SPECIAL.
      I hope this helps.
      Good luck!

  40. ikechukwu chris November 9, 2018 at 5:30 am - Reply

    life is all about you and your partner and the kind of life you chose to live it all depend on your intake and who you are it is in hand to rule and become a better person than who you today

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