She wants you to be a man and take charge. But she also wants you to be sensitive and gentle. She gives you mixed signals and gets upset–even when you do what you think she wants!
You’re afraid to offend her by being too forceful or aggressive. So you honor her boundaries, and she loses her interest. Or you remain persistent, and it becomes too much for her and she pushes you away…
What’s up with that? Can you ever WIN with her and get it right?
3 Secrets to Unlocking a Woman’s Heart and Conquering Her Defenses:
Claim Your Woman. Every feminine woman wants to be taken by her man. Yet, even the wording “taking” sounds selfish and something seems to be terribly wrong with it. Men are afraid to say “You are mine, and I’ll never let you go” because they think they’ll be perceived as controlling and egocentric.
The truth is, you need to take your woman INTO ultimate freedom which she can’t experience on her own.
1. When you claim your woman, it’s not a process of acquiring her into belonging to you, but an offering of guidance and protection, which you are devoting yourself to. You are offering your courageous heart and profound love and inviting her to open boundlessly while you holding a safe container for her.
Think of your affection, kisses, touch, etc. as a gift. When it comes from a sincere place of care as a natural expression of your praise, admiration and passion for her, it is not offensive—it’s a sacred offering.
Disclaimer: if a woman is immature and entangled in her insecurities, she might get triggered into survival and still run away… If your move was pure and inspired, but she rejected it, there is nothing you can do. You have to respect where she is. She might be not ready for someone like you. It’s her responsibility to heal her wounds, not yours.
2. Bypass Her Resistances. Look deeper than her defenses, complaints, capriciousness, and rejection. When you honor the truth of your own Soul, you’ll feel the yearning of her heart and will be able to fulfill her deepest desires, not just jump through hoops to please her.
Women don’t communicate in straight-forward ways. Subconsciously they want you to “get it.” It validates for them that you truly care, and aren’t just saying that you do. When you feel her, she knows and she opens up in TRUST to you. A man who is after a superficial reward—sex or the prestige of her looks—won’t go through the trouble of feeling her deeply. So, she tests your INTEGRITY.
3. Trust Yourself. No one can teach you what to say, when to say it, or what move to make and when. But your heart has all the answers ALWAYS.
Before you can feel your woman, you may need to learn to FEEL for real and to get in touch with your purpose. Your woman is a part of your purpose and you need to know exactly what you want. Where are you guiding her and yourself?
If you’re after validation or attempting to prove something to yourself, others or her, then you are driven by insecurity and she will feel it. She will punish you mercilessly for your weakness.
When your purpose and direction are crystal clear and of service to your woman, yourself, and the world, she’ll reward you with heaven on Earth. Nothing is more fulfilling for a man than opening a woman’s heart into a full radiance.
When you feel unstoppable in your quest, act on your impulses. The purity of your intent will give you courage.
This means that if you are moved by profound love in your heart and feel like ripping off her clothes, do it! But if there is a split moment of hesitation on your part, she’ll feel it immediately. You’ll lose the momentum, and she’ll distrust you. She will distrust you, because you don’t trust yourself…
Your heart will tell you whether your woman needs a hug, laughter or chocolate, whether you need to kiss her or shake her… You’ll be on the beat with her and life itself.
Women yearn for your Divine Masculine. Honor your own nature, embrace it, and offer your gifts boundlessly.
What has been your experience of cracking the protective shell of a woman?
If you are a woman, what does your feminine heart yearn for?
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